Trauma after dating girl with bpd
Although entirely too tempting to recall the periods during your relationship when your partner expressed vulnerability, openness, and candor which makes his or her complaint’s seem credible in part---his or her BPD causes the distortion of facts, and details and preys on your vulnerabilities and insecurities until you believe the wild fabrications and begin to become distrusting of your own intuition and gut reactions.Your partner’s complex defense mechanisms and masterfully developed ability to deny blame and highlight your inadequacies can cause you to believe you are deserving of such punishing abuse. Next Blog: How to Make a Clean Break from A partner with BPD.You will be blindsided by and baffled by your partner’s willingness to destroy the relationship you nurtured and enjoyed, as well as the indifference and callousness with which your relationship is dismantled.Although you may even wish to piece together the smoldering embers of the relationship that is now seemingly broken beyond repair, the healthiest thing to do would be to let it be.Such a person can tap a wellspring of powerful feelings you never knew you had until they surged alive as a result of the alchemy created between you two.You must move past the way his or her admiring eyes hung onto your every move in ways that enlivened you and made you feel rejuvenated.The entire time you were in a relationship these powerful feelings seethed just below the surface for your partner who finally could no longer contain them.
Feelings of depression and heart-palpitating anxiety won’t lessen the harshness of this uneasy situation you find yourself catapulted into.
Your partner is a master-manipulator who is chameleon-like and you just didn’t stand a chance at real happiness of the lasting variety.
Unbeknownst to you, your partner’s underlying traits of BPD caused him or her shame, fear, disappointment, resentment, and anger.
Your partner’s neediness and insecurities made you feel inspired, heroic, valuable and irreplaceable.
Still, it is not a good idea to tolerate unacceptable behavior.
The person you thought you would spend the rest of your life with is now suddenly an unavailable stranger to you.